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Seven Signs That He Is Cheating

Wednesday, May 28th, 2008

After a while you will notice subtle and not so subtle differences in the behavior of your husband or boyfriend. Before you jump to conclusions and start hurling accusations at him, calm down and start looking for signs that he is cheating. He may be very careful and be able to cover up and offer plausible explanations and alibis, but sooner or later he will slip up. You do have to become really observant of the little things that you would never have noticed before your suspicions were aroused. Apart from the obvious signs of lipstick on the collar, the scent of a different perfume on the clothing, some of the top signs include:

1. Your man starts spending less and less time at home and does not seem to have the same interest in the two of you doing things together. It will seem as if every time you suggest an outing, such as going to a movie or out to dinner, he has an excuse of why he cannot go at this time. He may start working longer hours but you notice that his pay hasn’t increased with all the overtime. There may be more evening meetings than usual and always at expensive restaurants.

2. You notice a significant decrease in your sexual lives or maybe it has become nonexistent. This is the prefect opportunity to ask what is happening because the reasons may be medical. If he comes up with excuses of being tired and not in the mood all the time, then you can take it as a warning sign that there is another woman in his life.

3. He starts taking a more active interest in his appearance, buying new clothes, working out and changing his hair color. This is especially significant if he doesn’t discuss any of the changes he is making in his life with you.

4. If you have to adjust the passenger seat of the car on a regular basis to suit your needs, you should ask who has been sitting in that seat. It could mean that the woman he is seeing is taller or shorter than you, which explains the change of position.

5. Guilt often comes into play when a man is cheating on his partner. He starts bringing home little gifts or sending flowers, which is really out of character.

6. Charges appearing on the bank statement or credit card statement for purchases, hotel accommodations or dinners in restaurants that you don’t know anything about are also signs that you can’t ignore. Not only are you paying for his dalliances with someone else, but it shows that he is really trying to let you know that there is someone else in his life.

7. A cheating man will get very defensive when you question him about his whereabouts and often will become angry. If he doesn’t have anything to hide, it won’t be a big deal when you ask him about it. Just be careful not to do in an accusatory tone to set off his alarm bells.

How To Recognize The Signs Of A Cheating Husband

Wednesday, May 21st, 2008

If you suspect that your husband is cheating on you, it is best to find out before it progresses too far so you can save your marriage. This is why it is important for you to be able to recognize the signs of a cheating husband. It is also important to realize that just one of the signs does not mean that your husband is cheating on you, but rather you should look for a combination of signs to help make your decision of whether or not to confront him.

In the process of determining whether or not your husband is being unfaithful, you will take on the persona of a private investigator of sorts. Of course, this is one option, if you want to spend the money involved in hiring such a person, but you may find out that there is nothing to your suspicions. It is best to wait until you have sufficient evidence to make you certain that he is having an affair.

There are certain signs that are obvious, such as finding receipts for hotels in his pocket or wallet or finding condoms, when you cannot get pregnant. More subtle signs that he could explain away include finding lipstick on his shirt collar, the scent of perfume on his clothing or even late nights at work. If your husband is spending more time than usual away from home without just cause, then you can start looking for more evidence to confirm your suspicions.

Many husbands who are cheating on their wives use overtime at work or evening meetings as excuses to stay away from home. You can start by checking this out by calling him at work or by driving by his office to see if his car is in the usual parking space. Ask about the places where he has these evening meetings and who is present, but present in a normal conversation so as not to arouse his suspicion and make him more careful. If his reaction is defensive, then you know that there is something going on with another woman.

The bank statements and credit card statements are another way in which you can check up on your husband’s activities. Usually men who have another women do take them to hotels and buy them gifts. When you notice items that you are not familiar with, you can easily check them out with the bank by requesting a copy of the receipt or even calling the hotel. Gifts that have been bought but not received by you offer evidence that you can question by asking where they are and gauging the response you receive.

A man who suddenly starts keeping his telephone conversations private or has his phone turned off when he is with you is displaying secretive behavior. You can ask to borrow his cell phone on some excuse and check the number he has been calling or who has been calling him. At least this will give you a name to start with and you can do a little further investigating to find an address.

Unfaithful Cheating Wife Signs - Learn What To Look For

Wednesday, May 14th, 2008
You may not realize it but when you have an unfaithful wife, cheating signs are all around you. You just have to learn to be observant and pick up on things that you may just disregard as being insignificant. Quite often the husband is the last to know when his wife is having an extramarital affair. You may notice that some of your friends are uncomfortable when in he presence of your wife or seem to be more guarded in their conversations. This could be they already know what is going on and do not want to be the one to break the news to you.
Often a cheating wife starts to display behavior that just doesn’t seem to make sense. This can include such things as taking up activities, which she previously condemned or had no interest in or finding excuses to go out every night, leaving you home alone. It may start with her picking fights with you over little things and then using that as an excuse to get out of the house for a while. It is normal for all couples to have disagreements when one or the other might need a change of scene to cool down, but this happens on a regular basis, you can be sure there is something else happening.

Even though you buy your wife gifts, does she seem to have more gifts than usual and not from you? This is a warning sign that there is someone else in her life, even if she says that she bought them herself or just picked them up because they were on sale. This is really something that should send up a red flag if she starts to wear a new piece of jewelry over one you gave here and that she claimed was her favorite.

A wife that seems to be distant and keeping secrets when once she used to share everything with could be cheating on your. Simple little things you do make her angry very easily and she doesn’t seem to be comfortable when you are around. Other indications that your wife is being unfaithful include many hours of overtime that doesn’t translate into pay at the end of the week. She may be claiming that she has all this overtime, but when there is no extra pay attached, then it is time for you to find out exactly what she is doing during those hours.

Another sign that your wife is cheating on you can happen when one of her coworkers asks how she is feeling seeing she was home from work and not feeling well. However, both of you left the house at the same time that morning and when you called home there was no answer. You should discretely ask if she had to go home sick or if she didn’t come in at all. You can confront her with this to find out what explanation she gives for taking the day off. It will arouse your suspicions and you may take some time off yourself just to check up on her.

 

 

Extramarital Affairs Are More Common Than You Think

Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
According to statistics, 60% of married men and 40% of married women have extramarital affairs. Quite often the spouse has no inkling whatsoever that the partner is cheating with another person. This is because the cheating spouse is so well able to cover the tracks or the partner just takes everything at face value and believes everything he/she is told.

Let’s look at the reasons of these affairs and there are many. Sometimes, the other spouse is at fault for not providing an adequate level of support, love or intimacy. Again, a spouse who does not show any decrease in the attention paid at home or the level of intimacy is quite good at playing both sides of the coin and may never get caught.

For some men, one woman is not enough. They like to collect women and have affairs the same way other people like to collect trophies. They have affairs and break them off, only to start another because it gives them a feeling of prowess. There are also women who like to add men’s names to their list of who they have slept with and had affairs with. For these, affairs do not mean anything other than another way of having fun.

When spouses are going through difficult times, one or both of them may have an affair as an act of revenge against one another. It may also provide them with the love and the feeling of being needed that they are not receiving at home. It may also be a way of one spouse telling the other that the marriage is over and it is time to move on, but doesn’t want to be the one to move out. In this way, the innocent spouse will become enraged and take steps to dissolve the marriage.

For some married couples, having affairs is a way to add spice to their marriage and their love life and actually approve of each other going out with other people. In fact, two couples are good friends and go out together often and then switch partners. They do not think of themselves as having affairs and like the excitement of keeping this a secret from their other friends or co-workers.

When you find that your partner is having an affair, you need to sit down and talk about h\is/her reasons for doing so. This is essential if the marriage is to continue and succeed. For some, having an affair is their way of letting their partner know that a problem does exist. It may be just a way of one or the other wanting to know that he/she is still attractive to others and that the affair does not really mean anything.

Finding out your spouse is having an affair is a traumatic experience, from which some couples never recover. It does take work to make a marriage succeed and when one of the partners does admit to an affair, it compounds the problems the couple has to resolve.