Why women cheat has been the topic of many surveys and papers trying to determine the reasons why women want another man in their lives. The most common reason that they give for their infidelity is that they are hurt emotionally. This hurt can come from the emotional rejection by their partner, because they are lonely, or because they found out that their partner cheated and now they want to exact revenge. Sometimes it is because they just want to make sure they are still attractive to other men because they have low self-esteem or self-confidence.

Loneliness is the main reason women give for cheating on their husband or boyfriend. They are left alone a lot while their spouse goes out with the boys or takes a lot of trips associated with work. This makes for an unsatisfactory relationship in which their emotional needs are not being met. They therefore look to another man to give them what they miss from their relationship. Even if they know the partner is working long hours to make money that they need, she still fells as if work is taking precedence over her needs.

When a woman feels lonely in a relationship and her emotional needs are mot being met, she feels as if she is unattractive and that her partner doesn’t love her. Instead of talking about her feelings with her partner, she feels it is easier to seek what she needs from another source. While most of the time this is another man, it could also be from another woman in a lesbian relationship.

A woman that has been hurt by her partner wants revenge. There is nothing as dangerous as a woman scorned. She will do whatever it takes to get back at her partner and prove that two can play at this game. Sometimes, she has not actually discovered that her partner has been unfaithful, but she does have her suspicions. The only way she can think of to draw him out into the open is to have an affair herself, hoping that it will make him wake up and start to work on saving their relationship. In this case, she is not cheating out of revenge, but is doing so as a cry for help.

The thrill and excitement of sneaking around is often a turn on for some women and this is why they cheat. They want to see how long they can carry on with an affair before getting caught and like the attention they receive from both their partner and their lover. For some, the experience of cheating is something that gives them an adrenalin rush. They are bored with their life as a wife and mother and want to be appreciated in other ways.

Whatever the reasons women or men give for cheating on their partners, the result is that both of them get hurt when the affair comes out in the open. This is especially tragic when there are children involved who inadvertently get hurt and they don’t understand why.

Do you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you? Do you know the warning signs? There is no one sign, short of catching your spouse in bed with another partner, which will point to the cheating. Rather it is a combination of signs that will give you the evidence you need to make an outright accusation. The top ten signs of a cheating spouse may be summarized as follows:

1. When you spouse comes home from work each day, the normal routine was to share what you each did during the day. Now that seems to have changed and he/she no longer wants to tell you things that happened at the office or give you details of how the day went. When you try to press the issue and ask questions, your spouse may become very irritated and want to change the subject.

2. You start to notice changes in your spouse’s work schedule. Where you once went to work and cam home at the same time, your spouse’s day starts and ends at a different time than yours. There may be more evening meetings than usual or more travel involved than there ever was before. Maybe overtime is the excuse, but you notice that there is no extra pay on the check for these extra hours.

3. All of a sudden, your spouse may take an interest in a new hobby or sport that takes him/her out of the house more often. This could include such things as joining a gym, taking up golfing or something else in which he previously displayed no interest at all.

4. New clothes, hairstyles and hair color seem to be his/her main priority. This is especially true for a spouse that despised shopping but now takes advantage of every opportunity to go shopping. Purchases of more stylish clothing and dressing up to go out for a walk are signs you should be aware of.

5. Showering immediately after coming home could mean that he/she doesn’t have the scent of perfume or aftershave that is different from yours. This is especially true if your spouse has only recently started doing this and normally would not bother to shower until bedtime or in the morning.

6. Another sign you should be aware of is when your spouse suddenly changes the scent of perfume or aftershave. This could mean that your spouse has received a gift or new perfume or aftershave from the “other person”.

7. When talking on the cell phone, your spouse usually carried on all conversations in your presence. You became used to the cell phone ringing on all occasions. Now your spouse leaves the room when the cell phone rings and usually the phone is turned off when you are around.

8. A casual conversation with your spouse about cheating causes him/her visible discomfort. This is a warning sign that something is going on that your spouse doesn’t want you to find out about.

9. The least little thing you do cause your spouse to become argumentative and critical, whereas in the past, he/she was very easy going. You get the idea that your spouse is annoyed that you are around and wants to be somewhere else.

10. Is the position of the seat in the car always moved and you have to move it back to your position of comfort? When you ask how come this is happening all the time, you either get no response or one that just doesn’t make sense.

How would you know that your boyfriend is cheating on you? Although you may not have hard evidence, you do have a feeling that things have changed. There are signs of a cheating boyfriend that you can look for without having to go to the extreme of hiring a private detective to collect evidence for you. The main thing is to pay attention to details - the little things that you would often overlook - and most off trust your instincts that something is not quite right with the relationship.

The first thing you may notice and this is probably what caused you to become suspicious, is a decided lack of intimacy. Your boyfriend may shy away from touching or make excuses of why you cannot go out together. You may notice that he doesn’t have the same enthusiasm for activities that you both once enjoyed. If you do not live together, you may find it harder to reach him on the phone and he may have unusual explanations of why he couldn’t answer your calls.

Check to see if your boyfriend has a history of cheating on his girlfriends. You may have been one of those women with whom he cheated while he was dating someone else. If so, you can probably tell the exact times when things started to change between you. If you do know some of his ex-girlfriends, you can casually start a conversation about how their relationship ended without arousing their suspicions that your relationship may be in jeopardy.

Unwarranted or constant criticism of things you say or do or the clothes you wear is another hint that the relationship is changing. This is because he could be comparing you to his new girlfriend and is waiting for you to get angry so he can have an excuse to end it all. You should not react with anger, but rather take this as an opportunity to sit and talk about what you perceive to be problems. He may not even realize that he is criticizing you or you may just be taking exception to what he says because you do have suspicions of cheating.

Another extreme of behavior could be that your boyfriend is acting more loving than usual and bringing you gifts, which he has never done in the past. While you do like to receive gifts, if you do have suspicions that he is cheating, you should start to question why all the gifts all of a sudden without insulting him.

You do have to give your boyfriend lost of rope to hang himself with so that you can catch him in a lie or in the act of being with another woman. This means you should take things slowly at first and not jump to conclusions too quickly. He will be careful at first, but if he thinks you are not noticing any differences, then he will get lax and start to make mistakes. The you can move in quickly and confront him with the evidence.

Quite often the husband is the last person to know that his wife is cheating on him. This is usually because he does not know or is not looking for the signs of a cheating wife. Quite often there are hints to this infidelity lying around the house and when noticed can easily be explained with simple lies. It is when the husband starts to find more an more evidence of cheating that he starts to suspect his wife and starts to look more closely at things he once took for granted.

One of the more obvious signs of cheating is the discovery of birth control pills when the husband has had a vasectomy. When asked about this discovery, the wife will probably say they have been there for a while and she just forgot about them. If this sends up warning signals, the husband can check the date on the prescription or check back a little while later to see if the same number of pills are there.

Friends usually know about infidelity in a marriage long before the husband does. The husband may notice that they are starting to act strangely, such as not carrying on the same type of conversation or not coming to the house as often. This is usually because they do not know whether they should tell the husband what is going on or they are afraid that they will accidentally drop hints and let the cat out of the bag.

When a husband notices many calls on the Caller ID from the same unknown number, and the wife doesn’t claim any knowledge of the calls, this may be a sign that she is cheating. When there are teenagers or others living in the home, this one is easy to explain away by claiming that the calls were for someone else. When only the couple lives there, when the same number keeps coming up day after day, this is a sign that some relationship is developing to which the husband is not privy.

Although a wife does not wake up one morning and decide to cheat on her husband, some extra marital relationships start out as simple friendships. When friends are over and the husband notices that his wife devotes most of her time to one person in the group all the time, then this should send up a warning flag. The thing is that this person does not necessarily have to be a male. It could be woman and the two could be having a lesbian relationship. In this case it is harder to determine cheating because this could be a friend that comes to the house quite often.

When a husband is able to spot the signs of cheating early enough, there is a chance he can save his marriage by finding out what the problem is that drove his wife to this action. It is also possible that there may not be a remedy and the wife simply wants out of the marriage.

How would you know if your wife was cheating on you? If you suspect an extramarital affair, you will start looking for the signs of a cheating wife. Some of these are very subtle and can be easily explained, but when your wife is cheating, sooner or later she will slip up and leave traces that you can find. There are times when the signs are something that only you will pick up on and usually by this time, you are the last to know.

If your wife works at an office and all of a sudden, she starts to have evening meetings all the time, this could be a warning sign. If she has received a promotion, this could be the reason, but no one has meetings every night. Try calling the office to see if she is there or call her cell phone, taking particular notice of the background noises. It is possible she may have a dinner meeting, which will explain the sounds of a restaurant, but you do have to take note of how often these dinner meetings take place. When your wife says she does have a dinner meeting, casually ask the name of the restaurant. If she is hesitant about giving it to you, then a red flag should immediately go up.

If your wife suddenly doesn’t want to be intimate with you or doesn’t seem as loving as she once did is also a sign that there may be cheating. She can explain this way due to sickness once or twice, but not all the time. The lessening of intimacy in a marriage means that it is time for the two of you to sit and have an open talk about what is happening to your feelings.

Another sign that your wife may be cheating is a sudden disinterest in family activities, visiting friends or having friends over. This can tell you that she has developed other interests and other friendships that are taking precedence over spending time with you and the people you usually associate with.

Does your wife no longer enthusiastically greet you when you come home? If this is a change in her behavior, then it is cause for alarm. Does your wife speak in hushed tones when on the telephone and keep calls to your home short? When you check the Caller ID, you may notice that it is an unfamiliar number, which she can pass off as a wrong number. However, if these numbers keep cropping up on the phone, then you should consider the fact that your wife is having an affair.

When you do suspect that your wife is cheating on you, you shouldn’t jump to conclusions and start making accusations. If you want to work things out and save your marriage, such actions can lead to saying things that you wish you could take back, but can’t. The wise option is to confront your wife calmly and ask that the two of you discuss what is happening in an attempt to resolve the situation to the benefit of both of you.

When you start to suspect that your man is cheating on you, then you start to become more observant to see if you can pick up on any of the signs of a cheating man. If you have a best friend who has gone through this kind of experience, you can take to her in confidence to find how out she discovered the affair. There are also many online sources that provide you with details of some signs to look for. These include such things as:

* Finding lipstick on a shirt collar, which is the most obvious one
* Detecting the scent of perfume on your man’s clothing
* Finding stray hairs on clothing that are definitely not yours
* Noticing that the passenger seat in the car is moved from your usual position
* Finding condoms in his wallet
* Noticing charges on the bank or credit card statement for dinners or purchases that you are not familiar with
* Noticing that he wants to talk on the telephone in private rather than let you listen in on the conversation

Maybe he has been taking many business trips or fishing trips and you realize that the people he says will be with him are actually home. This will tell you that he is not where he says he will be. If the location is close to where you live, you can make the short journey saying you intended to surprise him when you found out that some of his buddies “bailed” out on him and you still want him to have an enjoyable time. This could be a surprise he wasn’t expecting - in more ways than one.

Working late many nights in a row when he previously didn’t work late or now seems eager to work overtime when he previously complained about doing so is another sign that he may be meeting another woman. You do have to be cognizant of any changes in his need for sexual activity. Maybe he is not as active as he used to be or is not displaying any interest. There could be a medical reason for this, which is why you should sit down and talk about it.

You may also notice that he tends to talk about one woman in particular more than usual. This could be a co-worker of his or a friend of both of you or someone you don’t even know. The best way to find out if this is the “other woman” is to take things slowly and try to find out as much about the activities of this person as possible. Just asking innocent questions could make him feel uncomfortable and want to stop the conversation.

You may resort to following your man to see where he goes when he leaves the house and you know he isn’t going to work. Check his cell \phone to see the number he calls most often or the number from which he receives calls. If this is a number you don’t recognize, you can use a reverse telephone number look up to find the name and address of this person.

All of these signs can give you the evidence you need to confront him about his cheating ways.

It is a traumatic experience to find out that one’s partner has been unfaithful and the experience leaves you shaken and mistrustful of everyone. However, there are support groups that specialize in surviving infidelity that will help you work through the process. It is also helpful to have good friends around you at this time. Many of them have probably gone through the same thing, even though you think that you are the only one that has ever been cheated on and feel devastated.When you want to get past the fact that your partner was unfaithful and move on, first the two of you need to have a heart-to-heart talk and get everything out in the open. You really have to discuss your feelings for one another and decide if you do want to save the relationship and start over or if you think there is nothing left to save and you both should go your separate ways. This is not a decision you should enter into lightly. Many couples do have a period of separation as they sort out their lives and go to a marriage counselor who will help them with problems in the relationship.

The best healing and way to survive the experience is to talk about it. The best resource is a person who knows what you are going through and can therefore offer sympathy and advice. If you do not have such a person with whom you can bare your soul, there are chat groups online where you can meet people just like yourself who are looking for ways to heal a broken heart.

In order for a relationship to survive infidelity, both partners must be committed to making it work. The discovery that one partner has had an affair is often the darkest moment and things can only get better when you start to reach out to each other and mend. The partner that was unfaithful must be willing to end the affair and to conscientiously pledge never to stay again. Both partners have to figure out the circumstances that led to the infidelity and take steps to improve the relationship by making sure that these circumstances do not repeat themselves in the future.

No two people can survive an unfaithful partner in the same way, but the healing process does occur in stages. First of all you will feel hurt and angry to the point that you may say things you will later regret. You do have to take a step back and look at your relationship from a different perspective to see where you can work to make improvements or if you did do anything wrong. In the early days after the discovery, you may not want to speak to or even see your partner because of the feelings of mistrust that you have. After a while as you start to mend your friendship, you can start to take things slowly and develop the love and friendship you once had.

When you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, there are ways you can go about finding out if this is true without engaging the services of a private investigator. You do have to be careful not to arouse the suspicions of the cheating spouse because this will only make him/her more careful or even angry if it is not the case. You may feel a bit guilty about taking devious steps to spy on your spouse, but it is necessary to alleviate your suspicions.

First of all, you should be aware of the callers to your home phone. If you notice that the list is always empty where it was once your job to check the calls and erase the numbers, this is something that will arouse your suspicions. If your spouse has a cell phone, you can devise a situation where you can check the callers on this phone and take note of any number that seems to be calling a lot or that your spouse has been calling. Using a reverse phone look up, you can find the name of this caller and the address. This is easy to do with a landline and there are free online services that will help you learn who the caller is. With cell phones, it is harder to get this information through a free service, but the cost involved is not very high. This is something you can do from home without anyone knowing anything about it.

You can also record your spouse’s side of the conversation when on the cell phone in the car. There are digital recording devices that you can easily install under the dash, under the seat or even in the trunk, as long as the microphone is in the car itself. Your spouse will never know it is there. It does not beep or have a signal light and will only come on when activated by a noise, such as a voice or the ring of a cell phone. Although you may not learn the full name of the person with whom your spouse is having an affair, you will hear enough of the conversations to confirm your suspicions. You do have to be careful if this is the step you take because you may hear unflattering comments about yourself.

Another step you can take is to follow your spouse and see where he/she is going. For example, if there seem to be a lot of evening meetings all of a sudden, you can discretely follow to see if the meeting is actually at the office or at a restaurant or even a hotel. When your spouse says that he/she has a dinner meeting, you can casually ask the name of the restaurant. If there is hesitation or questions about why you want to know that, you can assume that there is something else besides a business meeting occurring. If you do learn the name of the restaurant, you can drive by to see if your spouse’s vehicle is in the parking lot or even sneakily check in the restaurant, itself, to see whom he/she is dining with. This last action is very risky though, as you run the chance of getting caught spying.

After a while you will notice subtle and not so subtle differences in the behavior of your husband or boyfriend. Before you jump to conclusions and start hurling accusations at him, calm down and start looking for signs that he is cheating. He may be very careful and be able to cover up and offer plausible explanations and alibis, but sooner or later he will slip up. You do have to become really observant of the little things that you would never have noticed before your suspicions were aroused. Apart from the obvious signs of lipstick on the collar, the scent of a different perfume on the clothing, some of the top signs include:

1. Your man starts spending less and less time at home and does not seem to have the same interest in the two of you doing things together. It will seem as if every time you suggest an outing, such as going to a movie or out to dinner, he has an excuse of why he cannot go at this time. He may start working longer hours but you notice that his pay hasn’t increased with all the overtime. There may be more evening meetings than usual and always at expensive restaurants.

2. You notice a significant decrease in your sexual lives or maybe it has become nonexistent. This is the prefect opportunity to ask what is happening because the reasons may be medical. If he comes up with excuses of being tired and not in the mood all the time, then you can take it as a warning sign that there is another woman in his life.

3. He starts taking a more active interest in his appearance, buying new clothes, working out and changing his hair color. This is especially significant if he doesn’t discuss any of the changes he is making in his life with you.

4. If you have to adjust the passenger seat of the car on a regular basis to suit your needs, you should ask who has been sitting in that seat. It could mean that the woman he is seeing is taller or shorter than you, which explains the change of position.

5. Guilt often comes into play when a man is cheating on his partner. He starts bringing home little gifts or sending flowers, which is really out of character.

6. Charges appearing on the bank statement or credit card statement for purchases, hotel accommodations or dinners in restaurants that you don’t know anything about are also signs that you can’t ignore. Not only are you paying for his dalliances with someone else, but it shows that he is really trying to let you know that there is someone else in his life.

7. A cheating man will get very defensive when you question him about his whereabouts and often will become angry. If he doesn’t have anything to hide, it won’t be a big deal when you ask him about it. Just be careful not to do in an accusatory tone to set off his alarm bells.

If you suspect that your husband is cheating on you, it is best to find out before it progresses too far so you can save your marriage. This is why it is important for you to be able to recognize the signs of a cheating husband. It is also important to realize that just one of the signs does not mean that your husband is cheating on you, but rather you should look for a combination of signs to help make your decision of whether or not to confront him.

In the process of determining whether or not your husband is being unfaithful, you will take on the persona of a private investigator of sorts. Of course, this is one option, if you want to spend the money involved in hiring such a person, but you may find out that there is nothing to your suspicions. It is best to wait until you have sufficient evidence to make you certain that he is having an affair.

There are certain signs that are obvious, such as finding receipts for hotels in his pocket or wallet or finding condoms, when you cannot get pregnant. More subtle signs that he could explain away include finding lipstick on his shirt collar, the scent of perfume on his clothing or even late nights at work. If your husband is spending more time than usual away from home without just cause, then you can start looking for more evidence to confirm your suspicions.

Many husbands who are cheating on their wives use overtime at work or evening meetings as excuses to stay away from home. You can start by checking this out by calling him at work or by driving by his office to see if his car is in the usual parking space. Ask about the places where he has these evening meetings and who is present, but present in a normal conversation so as not to arouse his suspicion and make him more careful. If his reaction is defensive, then you know that there is something going on with another woman.

The bank statements and credit card statements are another way in which you can check up on your husband’s activities. Usually men who have another women do take them to hotels and buy them gifts. When you notice items that you are not familiar with, you can easily check them out with the bank by requesting a copy of the receipt or even calling the hotel. Gifts that have been bought but not received by you offer evidence that you can question by asking where they are and gauging the response you receive.

A man who suddenly starts keeping his telephone conversations private or has his phone turned off when he is with you is displaying secretive behavior. You can ask to borrow his cell phone on some excuse and check the number he has been calling or who has been calling him. At least this will give you a name to start with and you can do a little further investigating to find an address.