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Get Help In Overcoming Infidelity

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Discovering your spouse has been unfaithful can cause emotional wounds from which you think you will never recover. Overcoming infidelity is extremely hard, but not impossible. It requires time, often as much as years to get over the hurt. The advice you often receive from friends and family is often for you to forget about now that it is over and to move on. This is something you can’t do and it is only someone who has never been through this experience that will give you such advice. There is a grieving process involved because you feel as if you have lost an important part of your life, especially if the discovery cam as a shock to you.

If this is the first incidence of infidelity, you can accept the apology and talk about what led to the affair. If, however, it seems as if your partner has a string of affairs and apologizes, only to start another affair, then it is time for you to take a long, hard look at your relationship. It is also easier to forgive infidelity if it was a one-night stand, but it is still a hard process. Forgiving is not easy because the suspicions will always be there and the spouse now has to prove that he/she is faithful.

Is your relationship worth saving? This is one of the main things you have to reflect on when you discover that your partner has been unfaithful. What repairs do you have to make to the relationship so that you can get it back to where it once was? It may be easier to think about a divorce or dissolving the relationship if there are no children involved. However, you have invested a lot of time and money into this relationship and you may have accumulated debts together. Therefore, just getting out of the relationship is not as easy as it seems. It is important to take steps to try to save the relationship.

You may forgive but you will never forget. Once infidelity happens, you will always have it at the back of your mind and wonder if the same thing is happening every time your partner leaves for a night with the boys or a business trip. You may even start to notice how he/she reacts around your friends and pick up on little bits of conversations that you would previously have ignored.

Dealing with infidelity and moving on is stressful for both partners. The cheating partner will always be on his/her toes trying to assure you that nothing is happening. So much so that you may even think the extra attention is contrived or fake. During this reconciliation period, frank and open discussions are essential, answering all questions honestly. Once honesty is restored to the relationship, trust will return and eventually you will both be more comfortable in the ways things are progressing. One bout of unfaithfulness is hard to get over, but when it happens a second and third time, then you should know that it is likely that you won’t be able to get over it.

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