To answer the question do men cheat more than women? - the answer is yes. According to the statistics on adultery and infidelity, men do cheat more than women at 60%, but women are close behind at about 40%. However, the reasons for both genders are basically the same. The reason men have a higher number in the statistics is that they have more opportunity to do so when their wife is looking after the home and the family. However, you also have to look at the numbers in another way. You can interpret them as saying that 60% of men admitted to cheating, which is not to say that this is the total number. In fact if you really get at the true numbers, it is possible that more women cheat than men.

Men seem to be motivated more by sex when they have extramarital affairs and often the affair starts out with no meaning for them other than the sexual attraction. Women, on the other hand, often look for comfort and companionship in an affair to help them over rough patches in their marriage or because they need to feel that they are attractive to other men. For men having an affair gives them the opportunity to try new things with a partner and keeps them feeling young. They do, though, engage in affairs because of an unhappy home life.

An unmarried man will often cheat on his girlfriend because of a fear of commitment. Once he sees that she wants more than just dating, he will start to stray and find someone else. Married men also cheat because they want to distance themselves from the intimacy of their marriage. When they have an affair they don’t have any commitment to their lovers and so seem to have more control over the intimate parts of their lives. They don’t really care if their lover decides to end the relationship and don’t really have any kind of trust in them.

Many men who would otherwise never think of having an affair cheat when they reach their 40’s. This is often referred to as having a mid-life crisis because they realize that age is catching up to them and they may be losing their virility. The fear of getting old causes them to start looking for a lover just to prove that they still have what they did when they were younger. These men quite often have an affair with a much younger woman.

There are also different kinds of affairs. A man may cheat on his wife only once with a one-night stand. This could be the result of imbibing too much and this woman is really, willing and able. Then there is the long-term affair in which the man does start to develop an emotional attachment to the other woman and even though he knows he should break it off, he doesn’t want to. Men who are really unhappy in their marriage and want to find a way to end it will often deliberately have a tryst and make sure the wife finds out, knowing that she will file for a divorce.

Adultery has become so commonplace in society toady that it is rare to hear of a marriage lasting for many years. Why do people commit adultery? Why do they get married if they do not want this person to be their partner for the rest of their lives? Everyone seems to assume that when they hear of someone having an extramarital affair that there are problems in the marriage. This is not the case as affairs occur in just as many good marriages as bad ones. In fact the spouse may never even know that the husband or wife is cheating and think that everything is fine.

Marriage counselors will tell you that in the cases they see the extramarital affairs are not related in any way to the other spouse. The problem lies within the cheating spouse - trying to prove something to himself/herself or others. The spouse is trying to mask any problems that he/she has by having an affair thinking that this will make them go way or help to forget about them. People just don’t decide on a whim to have an affair. Most of the time they happen by accident. They meet someone in the office or at the gym and get to know this person netter. One flirtatious comment leads to another and so on until an affair blossoms.

Once a couple has children, their married life changes. They have more responsibilities and less time to go out whenever they feel like it. The financial situation also changes with more expenses and the costs of childcare. Added to this is the role that society places on men and women in marriage. Women tend to take over the role of looking after the house and the children and men usually take care of the outside chores. When both partners work, there has to be a sharing of these roles so that one or the other doesn’t become overwhelmed.

When disagreements arise over this side of the marriage, they tend to build over time. Little things add up and then comes a big explosion. While women want to talk things out and set about making changes, men often just want to remove themselves from the situation to cool down. In this case one of the spouses leaves the house hurt and angry and goes to a place where he/she can meet up with friends. Sometimes these friends are members of the opposite sex who are good listeners and can provide emotional comfort.

There are men and women who do commit adultery because they like the excitement of doing something secretive and trying not to get caught. You also have others for whom one partner is never enough and they always want something different or better. There are cases where spouses cheat because they are unhappy with their home life. They feel bored or lonely and are just looking for something to help fill their hours. Whichever reason exists for the affair, the result is that you will hurt your partner and possibly destroy your marriage.

When you file for a divorce, adultery does make it easier for the whole process to go through. When you cite adultery as your reasons for filing a divorce, you do need to have proof, especially if your spouse is contesting the divorce. The impact of discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful is devastating and the betrayed spouse feels that he/she will nerve get beyond it to make the marriage work. There are different laws concerning divorce depending on where you live.

In England, adultery can only be used as grounds for a divorce if there is irrefutable evidence that it has actually taken place. In the British court system, adultery is defined as “having sexual relations with a person of the opposite sex outside of the marriage”. This means that a man or women caught in a sexual situation with someone of the same sex cannot claim adultery. This situation would involve using the grounds of “unreasonable behavior” and amazingly enough, this is enough to grant an instant divorce.

In the United States, the law regarding adultery and divorce depends on the individual state laws. In California, you can have a no fault divorce without citing adultery. Instead, the grounds would be irreconcilable differences that have caused the marriage to break apart. You do not have to present any proof of adultery or unfaithfulness. In terms of family law in this state, there are other grounds that can come into play because of the affair. If the spouse that committed adultery used money that would otherwise be used by the family, misappropriation of funds could be cited.

There are twelve of the states that do have this no fault clause for getting a divorce. In eight states, there is a waiting period for this type of divorce in which the couple must be legally separated for a period of time and show that they have taken steps to mend the breach, but to no avail. In Utah, there is a five year waiting period for a no fault divorce. In states where adultery is considered to be a crime and carries a jail term, it is rare to cite adultery as the grounds for the divorce.

If you find that you cannot get past the infidelity and the only way out for both of you is through a divorce, you can avail of divorce counseling. This is not marriage counseling as it doesn’t make any effort to help you get back together. Rather it is a way of making the divorce a friendlier one, which is essential if there are children involved. Through the counseling you can get the help and support you need to get you through trying times. It will help you deal with emotional issues you have. This is also an opportunity to help you through the negotiation process of dissolving the family assets and deciding who gets what in the settlement. Whether you are filing for a divorce or just thinking about it, this counseling can be beneficial to everyone.

Is your home life getting you down and you are thinking of having an extramarital affair? Do you notice your buddies having affairs and want to be like them? Before you jump in blindly, it is important to know what you are getting into with extramarital affair advice. First of all think about what you do have in your marriage and how you feel about it. This will help you determine your reasons for having an affair. Some of the common reasons cited for extramarital affairs are:

* To try something new
* Attracted to someone else
* The thrill of the chase
* Boredom
* Loneliness
* Have emotional needs that are not being met in the marriage
* Want to prove that one is still attractive to the opposite sex
* Wanting attention

No one is immune from having an extramarital affair. Sometimes they just happen and you are surprised yourself that you are one of the people you previously condemned for this activity. There is no one class of people that have affairs. They happen in all walks of life and in every town and city.

If you have decided that your needs are not being met in your marriage that you would like to have an affair with someone, first you have to find that someone. This means you will constantly be on the lookout for opportunities to arise and that you will flirt with a person that appeals to you to see if it can lead to anything. The amazing thing is that when you start looking you will realize that there is potential in just about every place you look - in the office, at the gym, even in the park.

You do have to realize the repercussions that could result if your affair is discovered and think about whether or not you are willing to risk this. Trying to keep the affair a secret is very stressful because you have to be constantly on your toes not to leave any evidence lying around or not to let anything slip in casual conversation. If its adventure you crave, then you probably won’t mind this, as it will add the excitement to your life that you have been looking for.

Are you prepared for the fact that you may fall madly in love with this person and end up getting a divorce from your spouse? If you have children, this is something that you should seriously consider because you will not only hurt your spouse, but you will hurt your children as well. Are you prepared for the financial ramifications that could result from the affair? If you are not financially able to support two families, then maybe you should reconsider the affair and take steps to make your marriage work. Extramarital affairs sometimes just start out as s fling with no strings attached and then develop into a serious relationship that you are having difficulty managing. Think twice and be sure.