It is a traumatic experience to find out that one’s partner has been unfaithful and the experience leaves you shaken and mistrustful of everyone. However, there are support groups that specialize in surviving infidelity that will help you work through the process. It is also helpful to have good friends around you at this time. Many of them have probably gone through the same thing, even though you think that you are the only one that has ever been cheated on and feel devastated.When you want to get past the fact that your partner was unfaithful and move on, first the two of you need to have a heart-to-heart talk and get everything out in the open. You really have to discuss your feelings for one another and decide if you do want to save the relationship and start over or if you think there is nothing left to save and you both should go your separate ways. This is not a decision you should enter into lightly. Many couples do have a period of separation as they sort out their lives and go to a marriage counselor who will help them with problems in the relationship.

The best healing and way to survive the experience is to talk about it. The best resource is a person who knows what you are going through and can therefore offer sympathy and advice. If you do not have such a person with whom you can bare your soul, there are chat groups online where you can meet people just like yourself who are looking for ways to heal a broken heart.

In order for a relationship to survive infidelity, both partners must be committed to making it work. The discovery that one partner has had an affair is often the darkest moment and things can only get better when you start to reach out to each other and mend. The partner that was unfaithful must be willing to end the affair and to conscientiously pledge never to stay again. Both partners have to figure out the circumstances that led to the infidelity and take steps to improve the relationship by making sure that these circumstances do not repeat themselves in the future.

No two people can survive an unfaithful partner in the same way, but the healing process does occur in stages. First of all you will feel hurt and angry to the point that you may say things you will later regret. You do have to take a step back and look at your relationship from a different perspective to see where you can work to make improvements or if you did do anything wrong. In the early days after the discovery, you may not want to speak to or even see your partner because of the feelings of mistrust that you have. After a while as you start to mend your friendship, you can start to take things slowly and develop the love and friendship you once had.