Infidelity is defined as having sexual relations with someone other than your spouse without your spouse’s knowledge. Both men and women are guilty of being unfaithful to their spouses. It is often the husband who is the last to know of his wife’s infidelity. This is often because he doesn’t know the warning signs to look for and is really surprised to discover that his wife has been cheating on him. It hurts the marriage and the relationship and destroys the trust that you have in your wife. However, if your love for each other is strong enough, you can get over it and go one, even though there will be a strain on your relationship for some time.

The reason that infidelity is so damaging to a marriage is that the betrayed spouse starts to wonder if the whole marriage has been a lie and if there have been other affairs that you didn’t find out about. If you are not sure if your wife is actually having an affair and you only have a gut feeling about it, you should not make a confrontation without evidence. If there is no affair, this accusation could be just as damaging to your wife as the affair would be to you. No matter how hard it is on you to live with the fact that your wife is cheating on you, you do have to find out for sure, for your own peace of mind.

Think about how your wife dressed and acted when you first started dating. She was probably very conscientious of her appearance and always dressed up for you. After a few years of your marriage, she doesn’t seem to dress up as much, but now she is starting to act as if she is dating again. She buys new clothes, has her hair done on a regular basis and maybe changes the color and starts going out more. This would be your first sign that your wife has a lover.

Reflect on how your wife acts toward you. Does she seem more distant as if she doesn’t want to be around you anymore? Think about how long this has been going on and you will probably have a time frame to tell you how long the affair has been going on. Maybe her conversations with you have taken a new turn. Where she always talked about certain things, she now has moved to different interests and you are slightly confused as to what she is actually talking about.

Does it seem as if she never has time to go anywhere with you anymore? Where you once made a point of going out to dinner or visit with friends, she no longer wants to engage in these activities claiming that she is too busy or that she has something else to do. Maybe she is working more than usual, but when you call her workplace, she is not available or probably not even there. Once you have the evidence you need, then you have enough to make the initial accusations of infidelity.